tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post1564980430911606125..comments2024-03-28T12:44:30.779+02:00Comments on Alex și David cresc: Ce este si ce nu este Attachment Parenting?Ralucahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-60596406855428987402017-08-28T10:46:40.031+03:002017-08-28T10:46:40.031+03:00"Does attachment parenting offer a set of rul..."Does attachment parenting offer a set of rules for parents to follow so that they can nail parenting ? No. There are no rules – there is just the persistent intention to care for and respect your child as a person, in a socially just way. It so happens that that care often manifests in behaviours associated with attachment parenting – sleeping with your babies/children, breastfeeding longer than average, slowing down to a child’s pace and gaze, carrying your baby both for comfort and reasons of practicality. But none of these behaviours are essential. In fact, no two families for whom attachment parenting resonates looks the same, because every child is unique, every family member is unique, and attachment parenting is shaped entirely by that."<br /><br />https://sophiechristophy.wordpress.com/2016/07/30/attachment-parenting-anti-intellectual-its-a-social-justice-movement/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-44390881728122065322015-02-14T19:11:26.139+02:002015-02-14T19:11:26.139+02:00Despre ideea lui Badinter ca alaptarea ar fi misog...Despre ideea lui Badinter ca alaptarea ar fi misogina. Cartea lui Badinter, "Mama sau femeie" e tradusa si in limba romana, pentru ca romancele mai aveau nevoie sa fie pacalite cu niste metode de PR sa isi ignore copiii. Firma de PR a lui Badinter are drept clienti 3 marci mari de lapte praf...<br /><br />http://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2012/05/is-breastfeeding-staying-at-home.htmlRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-88093465905531998672015-02-14T13:59:56.217+02:002015-02-14T13:59:56.217+02:00De ce CIO nu este o metoda feminista http://evolut...De ce CIO nu este o metoda feminista http://evolutionaryparenting.com/sleep-training-is-a-feminist-issue-just-not-in-the-way-you-think/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-54947951349960122372015-01-23T15:07:02.395+02:002015-01-23T15:07:02.395+02:00http://thestir.cafemom.com/being_a_mom/181075/atta...http://thestir.cafemom.com/being_a_mom/181075/attachment_parenting_vs_feminismRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-29635898367759976082014-08-20T21:44:49.898+03:002014-08-20T21:44:49.898+03:00Atunci cand spunem ca doctorul/sotul/tatal a adus ...Atunci cand spunem ca doctorul/sotul/tatal a adus pe lume si ignoram mama cum e? Dar cand femeia naste plina de putere? Care ipostaza e mai feminista?<br /><br />http://the-little-leaf.blogspot.ro/2014/08/invisible-woman-gives-birth-news-media.htmlRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-82956082011278822582014-08-03T00:51:45.157+03:002014-08-03T00:51:45.157+03:00Results showed that feminists were more likely to ...Results showed that feminists were more likely to support attachment parenting practices than non-feminists, and non-feminists were more likely to endorse strict schedules for children. These results suggest that attachment parenting is a type of parenting that is attractive to feminist women.<br /><br />Interestingly, non-feminists, and mothers in particular, held misperceptions about the typical feminist who they saw as largely uninterested in the time-intensive and hands-on practices associated with attachment parenting. Non-feminists perceived feminists as less interested in attachment parenting than they were when, in fact, the feminists were more interested.<br /><br />http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/06/120611134241.htmRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-56281406351120572882014-05-01T22:25:10.212+03:002014-05-01T22:25:10.212+03:00http://gangblog.ro/2014/05/01/inseamna-mine/http://gangblog.ro/2014/05/01/inseamna-mine/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-89753067332462771552014-05-01T15:03:34.339+03:002014-05-01T15:03:34.339+03:00"If you ask yourself, “How would I feel if I ..."If you ask yourself, “How would I feel if I were in my child’s place and how would I want to be treated?”<br /><br />If you strive to have the kind of connection between you and your child that brings out the best in both of you, and work to understand your child’s needs and to help her feel her best…"<br /><br />http://www.mothering.com/community/a/are-you-an-attachment-parentRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-13610774246172493022014-02-05T10:36:49.056+02:002014-02-05T10:36:49.056+02:00minunat articolul!minunat articolul!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432360316733423472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-74286835045548426012013-11-21T23:43:55.258+02:002013-11-21T23:43:55.258+02:00"I am crying out to be given the chance to ge..."I am crying out to be given the chance to get attachment theory (not AP) some proper airtime, because if there is to be a global consciousness shift in parenting it HAS to come from the science, not designer clad (albeit very eloquent) celebs, or passionate mums coordinating breastfeeding or babywearing flashmobs. It has to be black and white, it has to be independent of social class and eco campaigning and “8 Bs”, it has to be cold hard facts that nobody can pick apart because of 15 metres of Indian fabric or natural yoghurt consumption. It needs discussions of hippocampal volume, the true meaning of independence with reference to the developing brain and neural connections and the myth of self soothing. It needs discussions of neural pruning, of the long term effects of premature separation of mother and infant, we need to discuss oxytocin and empathy and altruism, we need to discuss the science of maternal instinct. We need to make the neuroscience of attachment theory as well known in society as the Baby Whisperer’s EASY and ‘pick up and put down’ and Gina Ford’s crazy routines. Because then, when this information is disseminated in a way that *everyone* can understand it, then there is no debate, there is no ‘war’ to win. There are only cold hard facts and the glaringly obvious fact that we have got this parenting thing all wrong."<br /><br />http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2013/11/13/the-problem-with-attachment-parenting-and-how-to-really-change-the-world/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-81093875463689617792013-09-29T10:23:21.045+03:002013-09-29T10:23:21.045+03:00Bine ca am scris atat ca sa explice Alfie Kohn int...Bine ca am scris atat ca sa explice Alfie Kohn intr-un aliniat :))<br /><br />"Reporter: Bun. Ce propui tu în schimb? Trebuie să fim mai permisivi? Pentru că eşti şi tu conştient că multă lume crede că părinţii sunt deja mult prea permisivi şi că ar fi cazul să-şi controleze mai mult copiii…<br /><br />Alfie Kohn: Dă-mi voie să-ţi răspund în două moduri. În primul rând, problema în zilele noastre nu este permisivitatea, ci frica de permisivitate. Ne e aşa de teamă că ne vom alinta copiii, încât pornim în forţă în direcţia opusă. Perfect de acord, şi eu am fost deranjat de copii care urlau prin restaurant în timp ce părinţii nu ridicau un deget, însă pentru fiecare astfel de caz sunt sute de exemple de copii restricţionaţi inutil, ameninţaţi, abuzaţi verbal – hărţuiţi practic de părinţi. E de ajuns să mergi la o petrecere aniversară sau la un loc de joacă pentru o jumătate de oră ca să înţelegi ce spun. Adevărata epidemie în parenting-ul zilelor noastre este tendinţa de a-i controla excesiv pe copii. Şi apropo, părinţii liberali educaţi tind să folosească tehnici mai puţin crude, însă nu mai puţin restrictive.<br /><br />În al doilea rând, ţin să menţionez că eu nu pledez pentru mai multă permisivitate. Copiii n-au nevoie ca noi să ne retragem şi să-i lăsăm să facă ce îi tale capul, aşa cum nu au nevoie nici să-i controlăm. Asta e o falsă dihotomie, iar eu resping cu tărie ambele variante. Adevărata alternativă este să clădim o colaborare autentică cu cei mici."<br /><br />http://www.parinteconstient.ro/interviu-cu-alfie-kohn-despre-cartea-unconditional-parentingRalucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-40936347220024825802013-09-22T17:50:13.030+03:002013-09-22T17:50:13.030+03:00http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2013/09/22/what-is-g...http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2013/09/22/what-is-gentle-parenting-and-how-is-it-different-to-mainstream-parenting/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-79808716002050000702013-08-28T22:39:01.855+03:002013-08-28T22:39:01.855+03:00Despre dezvoltarea inteligentei la bebelusii cresc...Despre dezvoltarea inteligentei la bebelusii crescuti atasat:<br /><br />http://motherwiselife.org/2013/07/28/attachment-parenting-and-the-development-of-language-skills/Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-75070324548026705522013-08-28T14:25:04.173+03:002013-08-28T14:25:04.173+03:00Despre implicarea tatilor:
""In our res...Despre implicarea tatilor:<br /><br />""In our research, fathers of breastfed babies scored just as high as fathers of bottlefed babies on scales of father involvement, and in fact the dads of breastfed babies were involved in a greater variety of activities than dads of formula-fed babies," says de Montigny. "The men with breastfed infants were holding and comforting their babies, giving baths and baby massages, while the involvement of the fathers of bottlefed children tended to be more centred around giving the baby a bottle. I think fathers imagine that being able to give the baby a bottle will help them become involved in lots of other ctivities, but in our study this was not the case." (7)<br /><br />Moreover, fathers who were invested in breastfeeding (strong belief in the value of breastfeeding combined with support for partner) said that breastfeeding created a feeling of closeness in the family and that it did not interfere with their fathering"<br /><br />http://www.fira.ca/article.php?id=153Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-48605664197095012822013-08-25T15:15:43.897+03:002013-08-25T15:15:43.897+03:00Ce frumos! Asa e... Ce frumos! Asa e... Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-19650540657731211012013-08-25T15:14:52.769+03:002013-08-25T15:14:52.769+03:00Multumesc mult! Ma bucur ca ti-a placut!Multumesc mult! Ma bucur ca ti-a placut!Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-37484483084793282202013-08-24T21:13:44.155+03:002013-08-24T21:13:44.155+03:00Foarte frumos articol, clar, explicit, usor de urm...Foarte frumos articol, clar, explicit, usor de urmarit, la subiect! Bravo!<br />As adauga la tot ceea ce ai spus faptul ca atunci cand ai grija de un copil (al tau sau al altcuiva), cu tot sufletul, cu iubire, respect, compasiune... ai grija in acelasi timp si de copilul interior. De copilul din tine de care altii au avut sau nu grija. E o minunata ocazie sa permiti copilului din tine sa fie vindecat.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01144480972984486463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-27174873628588817842013-08-22T08:53:44.207+03:002013-08-22T08:53:44.207+03:00foarte rar scriu comentarii la articole/bloguri da...foarte rar scriu comentarii la articole/bloguri dar acum trebuie sa scriu: SUPER TARE!!! si conform zicalei "it takes one to know one", numai un parinte care a trecut prin toate exemplele tale - si el cand a fost copil, si acum cand el este adultul ce are copii- poate sa il inteleaga 100%.Angela happy with Mark si Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06815678458937882300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-43394353322821680002013-08-15T11:17:49.197+03:002013-08-15T11:17:49.197+03:00Probabil, dar cand am impartit teme asa importante...Probabil, dar cand am impartit teme asa importante in linkuri mai multe mi s-a reprosat ca sunt greu de share-uit mai multe linkuri cand vrei sa le trimiti cuiva :)Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-51183158037725215392013-08-13T20:42:31.881+03:002013-08-13T20:42:31.881+03:00Foarte lung articolul, si din acest motiv este gre...Foarte lung articolul, si din acest motiv este greu de urmarit, ar fi fost mai bine sa il imparti in mai multe articole mai miciLoveLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01551717714989777899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-74378388870929388052013-08-12T19:33:31.150+03:002013-08-12T19:33:31.150+03:00Multumesc din nou, fetelor!
Coca, si eu ma lupt c...Multumesc din nou, fetelor!<br /><br />Coca, si eu ma lupt cu tendintele elicopterice si copil-centrice :)). La intrebarea cu HS as vrea sa raspund pe larg candva despre cum vad eu situatia. Dar chiar azi poate ai vazut si tu dovada ca exista multi parinti ce scolesc acasa din motive opuse AP-ului. Pe scurt iti spun acum doar ca dupa parerea mea continuarea AP-ului de la copilul mic la cel mare mi se pare intruchipata in UNschooling, din cauza increderii ce i-o oferi copilului si sustinerii in demersurile lui personale de "inflorire". <br /><br />Referitor la child-centred si activitatile cu copiii, din pacate noi ca societate moderna cam avem nevoie de asa ceva tocmai pentru ca in putine munci de-ale noastre ii putem implica pe copii. Nu macinam grane, pentru ca ei sa se distreze alaturi de noi, nu mergem la rau. Stam toata ziua intr-un birou la calculator, unde chiar daca ni s-ar permite sa ne luam copiii, ei nu ar avea de invatat mare lucru. Dar tot putem invata ceva din asta, ca atunci cand avem acasa ceva munci fizice sa-i implicam si pe copii, in loc sa ne propunem sa le facem special cand dorm sau cand ii lasam la un loc "special" pentru copii. Ma refer la gradinarit, curatenie, mancare, spalat vase, aranjat haine, etc. <br /><br />Te pup si sunt sigura ca stii ca faci bine ce faci :)Ralucahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02868191179306286398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-73196395955393803022013-08-12T14:18:28.916+03:002013-08-12T14:18:28.916+03:00doamne Raluca esti o comoara la casa omului...cum ...doamne Raluca esti o comoara la casa omului...cum de reusesti sa le citesti pe toate si sa le combini asa de frumos dupa numai tu stii.oricum bravo tie...mi*a placut mult, cu siguranta il voi mai reciti, deja l-am si dat mai departe asa de mult mi-a placut.adinagrighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949062504890203815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-6067114059113706132013-08-12T01:39:45.045+03:002013-08-12T01:39:45.045+03:00Perfect! Ai scris in locul meu si mai bine decat m...Perfect! Ai scris in locul meu si mai bine decat mine, merci!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-35305174941192331652013-08-12T00:21:33.185+03:002013-08-12T00:21:33.185+03:00minunat articolul. m-a emotionat de mai multe ori ...minunat articolul. m-a emotionat de mai multe ori si m-a ajutat sa imi clarific unele lucruri.. si sa imi dau seama unde mai am de lucrat cu mine pentru a fi un parinte mai bun.<br />mi-a placut si comentariul ursuletilor, care si el mi-a dat de gandit.<br />cu drag!Adrianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14644159450744940997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424187854861882772.post-38778804612664827642013-08-11T15:03:52.773+03:002013-08-11T15:03:52.773+03:00Este un articol absolut superb...l-am citit de vre...Este un articol absolut superb...l-am citit de vreo doua ori :)<br />M-am gandit la ceva...nu ca nu as fi de acord...spuneai ca...un parinte AP nu face anumite activitati special pentru copii, ci il implica in activitatile normale, zilnice...din cauza ca AP nu e centrat pe copil, ci pe familie.<br />SIgur...sunt de acord...dar totusi...eu cred ca mai ales in situatia in care nu-ti duci copilul la gradi sau la scoala (cum este in cazul nostru), este imperios necesar sa faci activitati special pentru ei...e dreptul lor la o buna educatie, e ceva ce simt ca le-as rapi daca nu m-as ocupa cum trebuie de ei. <br />Eu zilnic pregatesc activitati pentru cei mici...nu conteaza ca vin din tura de noapte, ca-s obosita...ca am casa vraiste....macar o ora...si tot facem ceva impreuna, doar pentru ei...<br />INteleg si cand nu pot, dar recunosc ca , fiind invatati asa...se supara...si-mi spun ca le este dor de activitatile ce le facem impreuna. <br />Da, uneori, vor sa fie liberi, doar sa zburde prin curte si sa fugareasca catelul...na...eu pregtisem altceva....ei....daca ei asta vor....o ora--doua- trei sa zburde in voia inimii, si apoi, facem si ce a pregatit mami.<br />Ma gandesc ca cei care isi educa copiii in stil montessorian sunt parinti AP 100%. <br />M-am gandit mult daca homeschooling-ul inseamna HP...depinde...daca nu-ti duci copilul la scoala doar de groaza sa nu pateasca ceva, ca nu poti sta tu fara el, traind in permanenta cu teama in suflet ca pateste ceva, zic ca nu e ok. Dar, daca doresti sa il inveti tu, pentru ca nimeni nu-i cunoaste nevoile, talentele...temperamentul asa cum le cunosti tu ca parinte...eu zic ca homeschooling-ul intra tot la AP. Care este parerea ta? M-ar interesa mult....<br /><br />Da, la noi tati e un AP 90 % si mami :)...80% caci am mult de luptat cu teama uneori obsesiva de a nu pati ceva rau...incerc sa ma temperez...muuult, mai ales de cand au crescut mai mari :) si, de dragul lor, pentru ca-i vreau copii fericiti, iubitori...voi reusi :). <br /><br />Inca o data, multumim mult pentru tot ceea ce impartasesti cu noi! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com